The Crestiad

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Roommates: The Good, the Bad, and the Incredibly Frustrating

By Angela Blum

Getting along with your roommate is not always the easiest thing to do. So how do you keep the drama at bay?

Communicate: Tell your roommate when there is a problem.

The worst thing possible that you could do is to let the wounds fester. If your roommate does something that bothers you, tell her. Let her know right away that there is a problem. If you do not want to address her in person, you can send her a text or an email. Do not leave a passive/aggressive message on her whiteboard or corner her when she least expects it.

Compromise: Give as much as you take.

You have to be willing to compromise when sharing your living space with another person. The only way this will work is if you are willing to work things out with your roommate. Neither of you should expect to have your way 100 percent of the time. If your roommate goes to bed at midnight, and you have an 8 a.m. class, see if you can find a compromise. For example, the person with the earliest commitment the next day sets the bedtime.

Empathize: Understand that she is not your clone.

One thing that roommates tend to forget is that their roommate is not them. A cluttered room may not bother you, but do not assume that she feels the exact same way. The important thing to remember is that your roommate is her own person. She has her own ways of dealing with things and handling situations. You need to accept that she has her faults, and try to understand where she is coming from.

Socialize: See other people besides your roommate.

Your roommate might be your best friend, but if you spend every second with her, the last thing you will want to do is live with her. They say that rooming together ruins friendships, and sometimes it does. You may think you know your friend, but living with her gives you a whole new perspective. Allow yourself a little time away from each other during the day, so you will not be at each other’s throats by the end of the week.


One comment on “Roommates: The Good, the Bad, and the Incredibly Frustrating

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